My mind is racing with all sorts of topics, none of which seem to be fitting to place in a concise post this week. I’m tempted to do a journal style entry this week and call it good. Are you with me? Great!
Laughter is fun, ain’t it? I feel like I’ve laughed a lot this past week, whether it was the banter between my husband and I regarding hoodlums, watching The Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon, laughing with a friend over dinner, or witnessing my kids in their daily antics, it just felt good to laugh. Laughter is some of the best medicine there is out there.
You know what else is pretty great? Exercise. Not the actual doing part, but the after part is pretty grand. I decided the action of exercising on an elliptical is more bearable if you watch The Tonight Show while you workout. The laughter makes the exercise fly by and the aftermath of getting a good sweat in is quite rewarding.
Parenthood is tough, am I right? I spent a good long time talking with a girlfriend over dinner about how I’m at a loss with one of my kiddos who seems to crave negativity. My friend reminded me that said kiddo is trying to vie for my attention and that even negative attention is still attention. I know this about my child, yet I still fall prey to these tactics. Little stuff turns into big blowouts and soon I have no idea why my child is crying and hyperventilating and I don’t think said child knows either.
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So, parenthood, right? I have another child who is one of the most obstinate kids I have ever met. I have read enough of this book called The Child Whisperer, The Ultimate Handbook for Raising Happy, Successful, and Cooperative Children to know which type of child I am dealing with, but I guess I need to get back to reading it for added guidance. I feel like I’m on a slippery slope of this kid turning into a spoiled brat.
Anybody out there have any ideas or books to help with negative-attention-seeking kids and obstinate ones? Let me add before I move on to another topic that both of these kids have amazing sides to them as well. I actually think the obstinate kid will benefit from this weakness, if it can be harnessed in the right direction. And the former child has several other spectacular talents that I wish I was lucky enough to possess. I keep thinking that with both of these kids, and even my other two that are currently easier to raise, I need to remember the words of the American writer, Tom Peters, “Celebrate what you want to see more of.” That is the essence of what these kids of mine need, I think. More focus on their strengths rather than feeding in to their negative behavior.
While we’re still on the topic of parenthood, do we have any fans of the show Parenthood on NBC? My husband isn’t a fan. He claims that every show involves yelling. He is mostly right, but oh how I’ll miss all the non-yelling moments. I’m really hoping they end on a happy note and tie it up in a nice little bow. I think that’s the least they could do for their fans, right?
Lastly, I’ve been pondering something when watching the world around me, particularly the actions of my husband. Isn’t life just a little easier when everybody sets out to do as much as they can for the better good? Today, my husband took care of so many tasks around the house that I dread doing, before he headed off to work. His help provided me the opportunity to work simultaneously on other matters that needed tending to in our home. His efforts changed the entire tone of my day. Sometimes I think I focus too much on doing the bare minimum out of pure laziness, when doing just a little more can help lift all parties involved. I realize I’m not saying anything we don’t already know. I guess this is just a friendly reminder to myself that I want to contribute to others the way my husband contributes so much to our little family.
So, there you have it, folks. Nothing grandiose to offer you this week, but meaningful topics to me nonetheless.